How to Light the Shabbat Candles:

It is customary to give some coins to charity before kindling the Shabbat candles. Before we pray to G‑d and ask Him kindly to grant our deepest wishes, it is appropriate to display kindness to others.

After you've given charity and removed the charity box, light the candles. A girl should light before her mother, so her mother can help if necessary, and is also forbidden to light her candle after the proper time.

After you’ve lit the candles, do not put out the match. Rather, drop it on a fireproof surface or give it to someone who has not yet accepted Shabbat .

The Shabbat Candle Blessings:

Use your hands to shield your eyes from the flames and recite the blessing while your eyes are covered.

בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה אַדֹנָ-י אֱ-לֹהֵינוּ מֶלֶךְ הָעוֹלָם אֲשֶׁר קִדְּשָׁנוּ בְּמִצְוֹתָיו וְצִוָּנוּ לְהַדְלִיק נֵר שֶׁל שַׁבָּת קֹדֶשׁ

Transliteration: Baruch A-tah Ado-nai E-lo-hei-nu Me-lech Ha-olam A-sher Ki-de-sha-nu Be-mitz-vo-tav Ve-tzi-va-nu Le-had-lik Ner Shel Sha-bbat Ko-desh.

Translation: Blessed are You, Lord our G‑d, King of the universe, who has sanctified us with His commandments, and commanded us to kindle the light of the holy Shabbat.

The time of candle-lighting is considered particularly auspicious for private prayer. Women have traditionally prayed, as they stand with eyes closed, for health, happiness, children who will illuminate the world with Torah, and the ultimate Redemption which will be ushered in by the Messiah. Girls, too, offer their own prayers at this special moment, as they discover the beauty of a practice which will enlighten their entire lives.

Uncover your eyes, gaze at the Shabbat lights and greet your family with "Good Shabbos" or "Shabbat Shalom."

Once you light the candles and recite the blessing, you have accepted Shabbat. As fire is muktzeh (set aside, and forbidden to move) on shabbat, the candles and candlesticks may not be moved until the conclusion of Shabbat.

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 How to make the Kiddush:

G‑d declared the Shabbat holy, and we in turn sanctify it every week anew with “Kiddush.” Kiddush is recited on wine and officially begins the Shabbat meal.

Everyone stands. Fill the kiddush cup so that it brims over with wine. Place the cup in the cupped palm of your right hand, and recite the kiddush.

Kiddush Transliteration:

Yom Ha-shi-shi.
Va-y'chu-lu Ha-sha-ma-yim v'ha-a-retz, v'chawl^ts'va-am.
va-y'chal e-lo-him ba-yom ha-sh'vi-i, m'lach-to a-sher a-sa
va-yish-bot ba-yom ha-sh'vi-i, mi-kawl^m'lach-to a-sher a-sa.
va-y'va-rech e-lo-him et yom ha-sh'vi-i, va-y'ka-deish o-to
ki vo sha-vat mi-kawl^m'lach-to a-sher ba-ra e-lo-him la-a-sot.

 

Glance at the wine (or grape juice) and say:
Sav-rei ma-ra-nan!

Ba-ruch a-tah, A-do-nai,
E-lo-hei-nu me-lech ha (Amen)

Ba-ruch a-tah, A-do-nai,
E-lo-hei-nu, me-lech ha (Amen)

Sit, drink at least half the wine, and pour the rest into cups for the people around the table. Pass the wine around so everyone gets a sip.